These are just snapshots in time that may have been carefully shot, selected, edited, and filtered before they were posted. While most of us may do this to some extent, it can still be easy to fall into the trap of comparing our lives to the lives of others or comparing the number of likes, comments, and followers they have. This can have a negative impact on our mood and self-esteem, and it is important that we recognise and manage this.

So, how do you filter the good from the bad on social media? Irish Awareness Centre Webwise has some useful tips.

Strike a balance

If you find that you are spending a lot of time scrolling through other people’s lives – take a break. Go out and make your own memories – doing activities that you find fun will mean you are less likely to be worried about what others are doing.

Think outside the crop box

Be happy for people who are sharing great things! But whether it is someone famous or even someone you know, remember that we do not always see the full picture. While it might look like they are having a great time, nobody’s life is always perfect – they are just choosing not to share those other parts! People are less likely to post a picture of themselves sitting on the couch watching TV or cleaning their bedroom – but it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

Edited reality?

It’s human nature; we all want to look our best! Fun filters are great and can be very entertaining, but remember that people often use subtle filters and editing tools to tweak their pictures. These tools are usually so sophisticated that you can’t tell if something (or someone!) has been enhanced.  

Find the positive 

Like in real life, who you interact with or spend time with can influence how you feel. In some ways, you might aspire to be like the people you follow. However, having a social media feed full of celebrities or friends who showcase the perfect image or lifestyle is a one-dimensional reflection of life. Therefore, balancing this by following people who share your values and interests is a good idea. Take the time to consider how you feel after spending time online – if something made you feel upset or uneasy, maybe it is time to hit “unfollow” and find something healthier. It’s a big online world – you can make it work for you!

Make time for reflection

Take some time to think about the things that you are grateful for and that are important to you. This can be a good way to offset any negative feelings.

Find out more about the work of the Irish Safer Internet Centre, including their awareness raising, helpline, hotline and youth participation services – or find similar information for Safer Internet Centres throughout Europe.